From the Proposal to the Wedding to the Happily Ever After | Your ...

Posted on May 31st, 2012 by Dr. Angela Londo?o-McConnell

You might be one of the 8 million people who have watched the video of Isaac proposing to his girlfriend Amy in a highly-choreographed routine. Some are calling it ?the marriage proposal to beat? and asking if anyone can compete with it.

The proposal?was undoubtedly a sweet and romantic moment in their lives (and thanks to YouTube, in the life of anyone who wants to see the video clip). But even Isaac admitted that although he did not think Amy would say no, he thought that his production would make it less likely that she would decline.

We cannot forget that asking for someone?s hand in marriage is stressful and nerve-wracking. However, let?s not lose perspective of what really matters here. Over the last couple of decades, marriage proposals and weddings have become so elaborate that it seems to overshadow the state of the actual relationship.

Does the relationship have what it takes to last a lifetime???Would you still say ?I do? sanspublic marriage proposals (TV, ballfields) and thousand-of-dollars weddings? Some couples get so carried away by wedding plans and overlook that, after the wedding day, they may not have common goals, shared values, or the commitment to make their marriage work.

Remember What Matters Most

I have also heard the wedding day described as the ?most important day of your life.? This makes me ponder, what happens after the most important day of your life is lived?? Do we have anything else to look forward to?

It sounds entirely daunting to place a lifetime into a single day. This is not to say that our proposal or wedding day is not a memorable and unforgettable day, but I hope there are many more days to look forward to since there is a lifetime still to be lived.

Ultimately, we should not overlook that Isaac and Amy are both actors, and perhaps Isaac did what he knows to do?put on a production for an audience. As for the rest of us: Make your marriage proposal something that fits you and your relationship.

And most importantly, make the commitment to put as much effort into the relationship as you would into planning the perfect proposal and wedding day. That might actually make you the happiest for years to come.

Photo by bootbearwdc via Flickr.

Filed under: Relationships, Stress, Women

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